How to Make Yourself a Priority

 It is hard to get out of bed and put on your pants in the morning when you have so much to do but yet feel like it is such a hassle! I'm not saying that we should be taking our time off. We can find ways to schedule ourselves more wisely and try to fit as many tasks and duties as possible into our busy day. If you are having too many things to get done it may seem like a lot but trust me, it does not matter how many things you have; nothing will matter if you don't take care of yourself and stop stressing yourself out; everything will go downhill. This is one of my favorite quotes as well:

"I am only trying to help. You are what you need." - Oprah Winfrey

I'm sure there are tons of people who love this quote but everyone knows about the truth behind any quote. People who want something in return and you might be able to provide that for them, but most likely, they won't do anything about it, at least not until someone else notices that they didn't try to get everything out of life and start doing their best. So what are some effective tips to make someone else's life easier, right now? Well, they don't even ask me, I think. Here are some ideas...

1) Think small (no big promises) We all see a very large picture every day. People have a very big vision for themselves and they all want the same thing from life like money, success, happiness, health, etc. They are usually so obsessed with making it happen because if you don’t, you feel like you are falling over, and you have no chance of getting anything done. But sometimes, we realize that our wants and needs are so different that it makes our lives so much easier without them.

How do we act like thinking about our needs rather than our wants? Instead of always thinking big about the bigger picture (like the person that can eat, someone who has lots of friends, or that child that is going to grow up to become successful), just think about your wants 

first. Just look around the room, and think about the things you need and the things you don’t need. When you can imagine your wants are smaller than yours, you will be able to give yourself more attention and just focus on doing the important things.

2) Tell people about what you need (small things, big things, anything).

Sometimes, you also have people who don’t even think about their wants and needs but then it comes up that you are struggling to go through whatever the hell you have so that you will help others and make others happy; it's a way of helping others out. If your situation is not easy, just tell someone about it. Show them what you need and then if they want it, they will do it. Sometimes, I used to say that people are selfish because nobody would come forward for help unless you were suffering or doing something wrong. Maybe the world needs more empathy or understanding or someone can help you in any way. Don't let anyone tell you that you're a failure because you need something. You need help in your life, just like the rest of us. Helping is what you can give to the people who don't feel sorry for you.

3) Get involved in hobbies or activities that you enjoy doing.

When we have hobbies or interests that we are looking forward to doing, those things will make our days a bit less stressful and it means that we will always be busy and not get too exhausted. Even the people with the biggest plans in life sometimes find a hobby that interests them the most.

4) Have clear priorities, and work on them.

Most of us do not give enough attention to what needs to be done. For example, when you are studying your studies, and you do not finish studying early because you told yourself you’ll never finish, it means you are wasting time; however, you are studying so hard that you won't feel good about yourself on the other hand. Keep track of what needs to be done, because you will never finish it; it will be a waste of time. This is where most people find it difficult to get things done. Write down every single task and plan out how much time for each one.

5) Take frequent breaks.

A break is good for us because it gives us a fresh, new focus to deal with life, or maybe even we want to just live a little longer than we used to. Taking a deep breath will allow you to reflect on the action you do, to talk about the things that you have done; it'll change your perspective on the past and on the coming time.

6) Avoid being defensive.

People are constantly looking to be heard and like to know what’s going on inside them. If we always feel pressured by something, we end up feeling scared, stressed, depressed or angry. Most of the time, when we do not feel enough inside ourselves to be heard on an issue we feel pressured by, we end up being unable to get the work done because we feel stressed. Try to avoid being defensive.